Is Your New Years' Resolution To Meet Someone New?

So you're single, totally unattached, and you've decided it's time to meet someone new. Well, you should be happy to know this is the best time of the year to try.

When I say "best time," I mean immediately -- this instant! This is not the time to procrastinate. As soon as you finish reading this blog, log onto the Internet and register for an online dating service, or pick up the phone and call a match making service, or get dressed and force yourself to attend a single's dance or even a speed-dating event at a local pub.

If you have ever considered trying one of these "proactive" measures, do it right now. After all, everyone else is.

In the 23 years I ran a dating service, the first week of January was always the busiest time of year, when the most people joined, and we therefore had the largest pool of available singles for new members to meet.

And why is the first week of January so busy? Obviously, the main answer is New Year's Resolutions. For a single man or woman, the three most common resolutions are to stop smoking, to lose weight, and to start a new relationship.

The most important of those resolutions to improve one's chances of meeting someone is the first one, to quit smoking. Sure, if you are obese, it's helpful (also for health reasons) to lose weight, but nothing improves one's marketability in the dating world more than to quit smoking.

As for starting a new relationship, I wish I had the proverbial nickel for every time I heard someone say, "This past holiday season was the last one I'm going to spend drinking eggnog alone with my Aunt Aggie."


Another reason January is such a busy month for singles' organizations and businesses is that few people try and meet someone during the holidays. It's just too hectic, and for some people, too depressing. It's far easier to tell oneself, "AFTER the holidays, I am going to make a real effort to start a new relationship."

Finally, another reason January is such a busy month is that many dysfunctional couples don't want to break up during the holidays. So they wait until January, pick a fight with one another, and then immediately begin the search to find a new relationship.


So Happy New Year and get moving!